Away from home

Rubbish

This is a hard post to write. My dad passed away last weekend after a short but vicious fight with that bitch, cancer. My sister and I moved into his house (he was a widower) to take care of him earlier this fall. He really did not want to go to a hospice or hospital; he wanted to be home. I get that. He was comfy at least and well loved and the time we all spent together was very precious. I’m relieved he is out of pain but feel soooo sad. It’s hard to lose a parent. I tear up thinking that our Friday night pub nights will be no more. We so enjoyed them and had many ridiculous arguments over politics, #metoo and feminism, Stephen Harper, LOL. My dad was a fiscal conservative (though mostly progressive socially) and I’m a ‘way over there’ leftie.  You can imagine our conversations. But we always enjoyed a good verbal spar and the debates never went south. I’ll have to start a new tradition with my own kids at a local pub here.

I’ve been away from home for many weeks. I didn’t have access to my art supplies while I was at my dad’s but I did manage to pack a small pencil case with some inking pens and my favourite Posca Paint pens. I kept an art journal of sorts. Nothing dark or depressing. I wanted a spark of happy and light while being in a sad and difficult situation. Many of the pages I created are an ode to my father. The one above features Diana, Roman goddess of the hunt with Monty Python quote. He loved Monty Python. Below is my fustilarian homage. My dad was quite the lover of Shakespeare so I thought a Shakespearean insult could be made into a fun page.  “Away you scullion! you rampallian! you fustilarian!” Love that word. I’ll need to add scullion and rampallian pages at some point.

Fustilarians Unite

 

Goodbye, Dad. You were awesome.

So it goes.

 

Comments

  1. Win Dinn

    Oh, my dear Sal, I am so sorry to hear this. You’ve been on a difficult and wearing journey these last weeks. I’m glad to see that you managed, even in this harrowing time, to pour some of your distress into your journal (I LOVE that fustilarian page particularly). Art truly does heal.

    May this coming weeks be an easing into your new life without the physical presence of your dad; he’ll be there, somewhere, cheering you on. Wishing you some ease in all of this, my friend. xo

  2. Sue

    You and your Sister gave your Dad the send off he wanted… well done. It’s a hard time when you lose a parent and memories are precious.
    It’s great you were able to use your art as a tribute to him. Hugs x

  3. Linda Kunsman

    I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved father. You and your sister gave him all that he needed in the final months of his life and he is now pain free and smiling down on you as your guardian angel. Your art is wonderful and a touching, humorous tribute – he would so love it!! May the happy memories lessen the sorrow of your deep loss. Hugs!

  4. Tracey

    First may I say how deeply sorry I am to hear of the passing of your Dad I can only imagine how hard those words must have been to write with your post. May you find light in those happy memories of your time together. Cancer sure is a Bitch* having lost two very important members of my family to this vicious disease and many friends and colleagues along the way.. I too feel what you feel but I love the way you have created these pieces of art and the attention to the greatest of detail.
    So much more is achieved within with a smile rather than a frown..
    Stay amazing and strong Tracey

  5. Nicole/DVAtist

    Oh sweet lady I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you were able to care for him. I did for my brother and it is truly an honor to care for our loved ones. Hugs and love to you and your sister.

  6. victoria

    Hugs Sal, thinking of you and wishing you comfort and healing for the loss of your dad, thanks for sharing. And always thank you for sharing your magnificent world of art and magic!
    Victoria, a friend always xo

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